When I was 8 my mom got remarried to a man who she had only known 7 months. Soon after the wedding this man started sneaking into my room at night or hanging out too closely when my mom wasn’t home. He eventually began to take advantage of me and when I spoke up about it I was told “[he] wouldn’t do that to you when he has me” by my mother… This continued for four years. Every time I would try to speak to someone about it I was shut down with “children have a hard time adjusting to divorce and their parents having new partner.” So four years I remained silenced.
How did this make you feel? What would you say to someone who has been through the same thing?
At such a young age I was impacted in many ways that contributed to my adult tendencies. I was constantly seeking male attention and acceptance because I wasn’t able to love or accept myself. It’s not your fault, It took me years to learn it.